Entitlement is defined by the Merriam-Webster dictionary as
- the state or condition of being entitled:right
- the feeling or belief that you deserve to be given something (such as special privileges)
We all know this word – enTITLEment. We have all felt this word applied in one scenario or another within our lives at some point in time.
Life Owes Us Nothing! Yes…nothing. You have the right to do things on your own, make your own way, earn what you have and enjoy.
So often, we feel that our TITLE enables us to place our expectations, opinions, and wants onto another person. We feel that people ‘owe’ us because of the TITLE we hold in their lives…Mother, Father, Wife, Husband, Sister, Brother, Daughter, Son, Aunt, Uncle, Cousin, Best Friend, Mentor, Pastor, Boss, Neighbor, etc. Thus the enTITLEment attitude.
Why? Because someone around us has the means/ability to help us, do something for us that we don’t want to do ourselves, is available. You’ve heard it before as
- Well, why can’t I drive your car while you’re at work? It’s just sitting there! Really, you need to know why you can’t drive all the gas that I paid for out and put extra wear and tear on MY car?
- You were paying all the bills before I moved in. Why do you need my money? For real, you need a reason to pay for the roof over your head, the food you eat, and the electricity you enjoy?
Parents should provide for their children while they are children and unable to do so themselves. The law of the land says that the ‘child’ age ends at 18. After that, it’s back to nothing…Life Owes Us Nothing except the ability to grow, study, and learn to do things for ourselves.
We’ve all felt enTITLEd in some way. I’ve done it. I know for a fact that my answers to the question of ‘Why do I need to do that’ have been
- Because I’m the Boss…
- ‘Cause I’m the Momma…
- Because I said so…no title or reason needed
Typically we freely impose our TITLE on those who love us, show us their care and love by being available, doing things with us, doing things for us without expecting anything in return.
This feeling of enTITLEment also helps to rot kids to the core, lower expectations of adults, and create a culture of enabling. Come on now, it’s true.
Where do you fit into this scenario?
- Are you the one using your TITLE to place your desires on others?
- Are you the enabler who gets sucked into feelings of ‘I have to do it, they are my (insert TITLE here)’?
- Are you a gentle yet firm ‘No’ to the entitled ones?
- Are you the ‘Honey please, get out of my face’ shut the foolishness down person?
The Bible teaches that we should have a Servant’s heart. Showing gratitude for what others do for us helps to combat enTITLEment. When a feeling of Gratitude is present, we are thankful and not expecting. We show appreciation for others, their time, their talent, their resources, and their kindness. We do not take advantage.
Challenge: Read the Prodigal Son within the Bible found in Luke 15: 11-32
Written In Love,