Speak Life


As I walked into the library recently, there was a young man somewhere between ages 12 and 14 standing outside of the car I parked near. He was speaking to a woman who was sitting in the driver’s seat. His tone was somber. He was saying that he had worked on a project for hours on the computer in the library and when he tried to save his work something happened so he didn’t believe his work had been saved.

The lady sitting in the car, who I assume was his mother, was not sympathetic to his losing of his work.  She began her sentence with profanity and then she said to him “You been here all of this time working on that the D project and now you’re telling me you’ve lost all of your work so you have to do this SH the F over again?!” I made it to the door of the library and I could hear her continue yelling at him well after I was inside.

How we speak to our children becomes their inner voice.

Once I made into the library and gotten the book that I was picking up for my daughter I saw the young man inside.  He was at the front desk asking how he could get some help to retrieve the information on computer he had been using.  The young woman directed him to the reference desk and he began talking to the person there.

It was time for me to leave and I was fearful and hopeful that he was able to recover his work so he would not receive another tongue lashing.  If this woman was comfortable yelling curse words at a child in a library parking lot, just think of how she speaks to him at home.

How we speak to our children becomes their inner voice.

The things that you say to your children today, tomorrow, and every second of the day are important.  I know that there are moments when a button has been pushed and what comes out is not what you intended but hey, once spoken you can’t take it back.  In those moments, we have to take a breath, pause, and think before speaking.

How we speak to our children becomes their inner voice.

Think about the sayings that you heard spoken by your parents, grandparents, and mentors that you use today.  Then think about the negative things that you remember.  Which provides the most value in your life today?  What would you rather have your children remember?

Our children internalize what we say to them and they are going to pull these nuggets of wisdom or belittling mockery out when they’re in stressful situations, need help, or feel lonely.

It’s important that we make sure that the things that we say to our children are those that are going to be helpful and add value to build them up instead of tear them down.


  • When in a stressful situation slowly count to 10 (by ones) before responding.
  • Think of positive statements and affirmations you can use to replace hurtful ones.
  • Write down statements from your childhood that still make you smile today.

Written in Love,

Scherie Writes


Scherie Writes
Hello World! I am Your Every Day Super Chick who has a passion for sharing my faith, writing, and insight with others. May my writings value to your life.